15 May 2017

Be Careful

In lieu of a political item today, I wanted instead to pass along a news story that serves as a cautionary note for all gay and bisexual men.

A federal grand jury last week handed down multiple criminal charges against four Dallas-area men who are alleged to have beaten and robbed men who they met on Grindr. The victims were expecting a hot stud to show up at their door for some fun times, but instead they were savagely attacked, humiliated with homophobic abuse, and robbed of valuables at gunpoint.

The moral of this story is that if you meet another man for the first time via sites like Grindr, don't invite him to your house or apartment. Meet first in a safe public place that's LGBT-friendly so you can scope him out. Gay and bisexual men are equipped with gaydar for a reason -- you should be able to tell if he's on Team Rainbow or an awkward straight guy up to no good.

In my younger and wilder days, Grindr did not exist but we had all kinds of newspapers with sex personals that worked much the same way. I always met with any man for the first time in a safe public place so I could see what kind of vibe he was throwing.

Not only should you do this for safety, this helps to determine if he matches his pictures. You'd be amazed at the number of men who will use someone else's picture in an ad, apparently in the hope that you'll never notice.

Have fun out there, but be careful, too.


  1. Anonymous06:17

    Muy de acuerdo la lógica dice que tu no debes dar papaya,hay mucho peligro camufflado y lo que aparenta algo diveridamente inocente podría ser algo peligroso.Amigo venezolano,Cucuta

  2. Anonymous08:26

    Good advice! I call those, "Meet and Greets." Always in a public place because you can never be too careful. And I say this as a man who is 6'3" and built like a linebacker. But no matter how capable we may be in defending ourselves, you never want to increase your chances of being a victim of crime.

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